Today I’m celebrating my birthday with a quiet day of doggie cuddles, fresh air, and some personal reflection. Last year on my birthday I shared a list of random things the Radiant Rebel / Batty’s Bath community might not have know about me. This year, I think I’ll share a few “life hacks” / mindset shifts I’ve learned (usually the hard way) that have made each year better and better. They may seem like simple lessons, but they have been hard won and reflective days like today are what have made all the difference in learning what life has been trying to teach me – without quiet reflection and introspection, I wouldn’t have caught on or known what to do with the lesson once it was taught.
Without any further ado, here’s some of the mindset shifts that have become an important part of who I am today.
1 – Don’t ignore communications my body is trying to send me .. ie a new breakout, a wave of fatigue, an achy back, or pinching hip are all signs that inflammation in my body is reaching a critical mass. Avoidance or the dismissing of these signals leads me further from how I want to feel, and ultimately, further from living up to my full potential. Ever tried to take on big things while being tired, restless, or sore? It’s not worth pushing ahead without stopping to figure out why you need to push so hard in the first place. A saying that has weaved its way into my very being is: if I argue for my limitations, I get to keep them. In other words, if you expel a lot of energy coming up with all the excuses as to why you can’t overcome a stumbling block (or mountain in your path), you won’t have any energy left to find the workaround, forge a new path, or see the big red door that leads to a road straight through the mountain.
2 – Continuing on the above note, investigating and testing for root causes, have made a huge impact on what I know about my body. All those tests and investigations (as well as mini “experiments” or case studies on things like my diet, deficiencies, gut flora, inflammation, sleep patterns, and the like) have made it possible to cut through the noise and single out cause & effect relationships. Not once has my body “lied” to me about when something negative or destructive was happening – I just needed to be able to hear & comprehend its signals.
3 – Making tiny (yet consistent) tweaks leads to me to accomplishing big goals – and usually in unpredictable and wonderful ways.
4 – Continuing on that note; I don’t need to know how I’ll ultimately accomplish my goal or see each step in vivid detail (or any detail for that matter) to take the first step. Taking one step means I’m already closer than I was before.
5 – Whether I end up accomplishing a specific goal on my journey or I end up steering my ship in a different direction, I always end up somewhere that was much better than where I started from.
6 – Identifying patterns in my life, particularly ones that play out over a long period of time before repeating again, has single-handedly been what’s creating huge mindset shifts for me – and ultimately been the key to breaking negative, dangerous, or self-sabotaging unconscious actions, behaviors, thoughts, and attractions.
7 – My worth won’t ever be, nor has it every been, tied to my body. My worth isn’t based on how I look, how I’m feeling, or how my body is functioning. My worth, just like everyone’s, can’t be added to or subtracted from, it just is. Each of our worth or intrinsic value is endless, timeless, and infinite.
8 – Thoughts are powerful. I feel like I’ve always known this on some level (after all, I got a psychology degree because I find the power of thoughts to be absolutely fascinating), but lately, the power of this lesson has grown and expanded for me. As the saying goes, thoughts create things. I’m just now exploring just how vast the “things” (mindset shifts, positive actions, milestone creation/acquisition, mood awareness/transformations/etc etc etc) that thoughts can create can be.
9 – The more I align with balanced, positivity-focused, stress-free, simple (no drama) living, the easier everything else becomes. Doors open up, opportunities arrive, and the universe seems to say “you’re on the right path, I got you”. It brings an inner peace that makes focusing on what’s truly important crystal clear, exciting, and most importantly, easy.
10 – Continuing on the note above, when I see the positive psychological and physical outcomes of a no drama, in tuned life, I find myself gravitating to more positivity and radiance. I find that I naturally start surrounding myself with uplifting influences and easily releasing what isn’t enhancing my wellbeing. Moving towards what’s good for me, and away from what’s detrimental, doesn’t feel like a struggle. Shifts (in mindset and habits) comes without will power or dragging my feet. Plus, as an added bonus, I recently found out that this also insulates me from negative, emotional vampires and misery trying to bring me into its company. Like water off a duck’s back, deflecting what would have felt like a personal attack before, is barely a blip on my radar now.
So there ya have it, 10 thoughts from me on my 34th birthday. I’m excited to read this list on my 35th birthday and see how much I’ve changed, grown, or shifted in a year’s time. Until then, the list above is what I’m reflecting on today. Have a great Sunday Radiant Rebels!
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